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Holiday Grief Guidance

Grief and the Holidays

Feelings of grief and loss can be especially intense around holidays and holy days. We at Mabrie Memorial Mortuary would like you to know that our care for you continues and we offer these resources in that spirit.

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A dark candle shines brightly among holiday decorations as snow gently falls outside.

Taking Care of Yourself

The holidays require a lot of energy—and grief can make that even harder. To protect your well-being:

  • Slow down. You don’t need to attend every celebration or accomplish everything on your usual holiday “to do” list. Consider giving differently this year—perhaps a donation in your loved one’s memory.
  • Say no when you need to. It’s okay to decline invitations if they feel overwhelming. Be honest with others about what you can and cannot handle.
  • Share your needs. Friends and family often want to help but may not know how. Be specific about what would bring you comfort.
  • Care for your body. Eat, rest, and stay hydrated. If sleep is difficult, talk with your doctor. A healthy body supports a stronger mind.
  • Allow yourself to cry. Tears are a natural outlet of grief. Don’t hold them back—even in public.

Ways to Honor Your Loved One

Holidays don’t have to be miserable. They can also be meaningful times to remember and honor the life of your loved one. Here are a few ideas:

  • Pass on family treasures. Wrap a keepsake and gift it to someone who will cherish it.
  • Plan a memorial moment. Donate a poinsettia, order flowers for your church, or plant a tree in their honor.
  • Decorate in small ways. If a full house feels like too much, decorate a corner, a single table, or even your loved one’s grave if allowed.
  • Give thanks. Write down the gifts your loved one shared—love, laughter, joy—and keep those notes close as reminders.
  • Light a candle. A flame lit in gratitude is a symbol that love never ends.